Oh No, The Holiday Season Is Here Again!
How can it be? It’s Thanksgiving today and that means Christmas and New Year’s are just a month away! Time flies whether you’re having fun or not.
What’s your survival strategy this year? Do you need one or are you fine about the holidays? Not everyone feels bothered by the festivities. But if you do, here are some ideas to keep you feeling good and get you through to start a new year.
- Talk to friends and family and make plans early. Having something to look forward to can be the key to getting through the season.
- Consider an all girl’s New Year celebration. Take a trip – even if it’s just to a nearby city or spa and see something new. A change of pace can be really fun, stimulating and memorable. Or tone it down and plan a brunch at a nice restaurant.
- Find ways to help others. When you give your time and focus on those who are less fortunate, you feel better about your own circumstances.
Maybe plans aren’t a big issue for you. Perhaps you are more troubled by the endless, well-meaning questions from family members like, “When you are you going to get married?” or “Have you met any men lately?” These dreaded conversations can be worse than the lack of a man to kiss at midnight on December 31st.
My suggestion is to come up with your answers now so you are not at a loss for a response. Being prepared can make all the difference when dealing with the pressure you feel from family expectations. Not sure what to say? No problem, I’ll give you a few suggestions.
- “Thanks for your concern” then change the subject.
- “Just haven’t found the right guy yet”
- “My life is so full, I haven’t been focusing on the man hunt”
- “I’m not concerned at all, but thanks for asking”
- “I’m having a secret romance with George Clooney so I can’t discuss it”
Other tricks for dealing with that annoying family member include:
- Take a moment, smile and leave the room
- Change the subject
- Say that subject is off limits this year
- Go help in the kitchen
- Walk away and engage with other family members you do enjoy
- See what the kids are up to
This year, make a plan to take care of number one. And if you don’t know who that is – IT’S YOU! Find ways to enjoy the season and leverage the bounty of good spirit. Make it your goal to have the best holiday season on record, even if that means you relax and enjoy rather than participating in the crazed rat race that normally defines your holidays.
Lastly, be sure to count your blessing this Thanksgiving. No matter what is going on in your life, you have things to be grateful for when you take a moment to think about it.
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