Dating Over 40: A Word On Chemistry

Chemistry. Women just have to have it. They talk about it, insist on it, dream about it.

Chemistry is one of those things that my dating coaching clients bring up all the time. It’s very difficult to talk a woman out of the idea that she NEEDS instant chemistry. And if they don’t feel this connection from the get go, there’s no interest or desire for additional dates.

Do you feel this way too?

When I was on my dating journey, I used a different rule of thumb. If a man was nice, interesting, easy to talk with, treated me well, decent looking – I considered him to be in my “ballpark” of possiblities and went out with him at least three times. The more dates we had, the more information I collected and learned about him – through oberservation and interaction. I refer to this process as “data gathering” and consider this the point of dating.

But so many of my over 40 dating coaching clients don’t get here because they don’t FEEL the chemistry right up front.

That’s a shame for several reasons:

1. Sometimes chemistry can develop as you get to know a man.
2. Some men aren’t as comfortable at first, but as they warm up the chemistry thing starts to percolate as well
3. Sometimes the chemistry wears of quickly as you catch on to other less desirable characteristics revealed when you get to know a man.

Well I was surfing recently and came across Evan Marc Katz’s video on chemistry. He sums up the truth about chemistry in this quick video that you should definitely take time to watch. He’s direct, funny and on the money honey. Click here to watch and see for yourself why chemistry could easily be one reason that you are keeping yourself from meeting the right men.


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony, MSN.com, MORE.com, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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