One of my over 40 dating coaching clients, Daphne is having the best time with her dating journey. Daphne, who is in her mid-50’s and dating again after 27 years of marriage, has shared with me that “Your book is WORKING” – her words. While she’s been divorced for 4 years and dated before we started coaching, her current experience is quite different – in a positive sense!
Before working with me, Daphne was dating Pete, a man who seemed like a good package, but over time displayed similarities to her ex-husband. Oh no. When we started dating coaching, she was still seeing him ocassionally, but no longer in a serious relationship. We talked about how much space he might be occupying in her heart and mind, but Daphne felt quite certian he wasn’t preventing her from meeting new men.
As she read my book, she came upon the page where I ask the reader to sign, making a contract with herself to make finding love a priority. Apparently Daphne took this commitment very seriously. So much so, that ever since signing, she claims things have really turned around.
First – Daphne began to re-look at her relationship with Pete and just didn’t know what to do. We came up with the solution together that she might consider letting go of him in three months. That time line tactic helped Daphne relax and it didn’t take that long for her to give him up. She recognized that he was keeping her from being truly open to new men and that didn’t coincide with her commitment to find love. Today she is free of Pete and comments on how great that feels.
Second, contrary to what so many of my over 40 dating coaching clients tell me, Daphne is meeting a large number of qualified candidates online at Match.com. While others say all men stink and there aren’t any good ones left, Daphne is having a field day. They are coming out of the woodwork just for her. Men with education, good jobs, wealth, boats, looks, etc. Go figure.
Third, Daphne is getting really good at weeding out the men who will not be a good match to make room for the guy who could be an excellent prospect. She’s not wasting time with the wrong guys, but she is giving men a chance to maximize her options. Smart Cookie that Daphne.
The point is this: while Daphne credits her current success to my book, MANifesting Mr. Right, (which I must say I do appreciate) I would say it’s her attitude, open mind, and actions that are creating this level of positive activity for her. She hasn’t met “the one” yet, but each man seems to be a bit closer to the guy she hopes to manifest.
Adopt Daphne’s attitude and see what happens for you. Make a commitment to yourself to make finding love a priority. Write a great profile (or have me help you with yours) and then get out there to meet men. Enjoy and appreciate the men even if you haven’t nmet the right one yet. You’ll likely relax knowing that it’s just a matter of time and you’ve got everything else aligned for the best dating karma possible.
Thanks Daphne for inspiring me and enjoying the journey!