Karen Salmansohn’s new book, Prince Harming Syndrome is a must read for women who tend to choose men with similar flaws. Some of my over 40 dating coaching clients refer to this problem as “having a broken picker”. Whatever you call it, if you are a woman who goes for the bad boys who treat your poorly, buy this book immediately.
Karen has masterfully outlined every detail about being attracted to the wrong men and how to turn things around. The back cover of her book states: “Do you sometimes feel as if you’re wearing a KICK ME sign on your heart? If so, you are not alone. Unfortunately, there are far too many women who suffer from PRINCE HARMING SYNDROME – the tendency to become involved in troubled relationships.”
Let me give you a peek inside. I was entranced from the very first sentence:
“Once upon a time I suffered from what I call PRINCE HARMING SYNDROME – the tendency to date what I call “bad boys”, charismatic, smart, funny successful, handsome guys who seem like great catches until they suddenly erupt into a rage over innocuous things (like my not making the bed, my being 10 minutes late, my joking with a male waiter) – or these bad boys would simply prove to be dishonest cheaters.”
I cannot tell you how many of my over 40 dating coaching clients or those dating after divorce insist on instant chemistry with a man and this is often the result – bad boys who treat them poorly. But Karen’s explanation of what this is all about and her step-by-step process to change your habits and romantic luck is truly breakthrough.
In chapter 1, Karen fully explains how and why the Law of Attraction and affirmations work and exactly how you should put this system to work for you – by writing your own happily ever after story.
Chapter 2 outlines the five essential personality traits to look for in a real Prince Charming. Strong character isn’t descriptive enough since Stalin, Hitler and Napoleon all had this quality, but um, we don’t want to date them (OK they are dead, but you get the idea.) Plus Karen explains warning signs to watch out for – very helpful!
In chapter 6, the author explains the changes you want to consider making to attract a Prince Charming of your own. Every detail makes complete sense and is sound advice that will work for your life regardless of circumstances. For example, why raising your self esteem and self-love are the most powerful attraction magnets around.
In chapter 8, Karen helps you trouble shoot relationship issues with suggestions that address each one. She says, “Love at first sight is easy. It’s love at 1001 sight that can be very difficult.” Good point. To stay the course takes work and Karen shares insights that will help you survive and thrive including three savvy strategies for handling conflict.
In chapter 9, Salmansohn provides reasons why you might need to break up with your current Prince to reach for higher ground. She is thorough and supportive in every explanation and yet also cautions women in chapter 10 not to be the type of woman always throwing back the man hoping to catch a bigger/better one.
What I love about this instructional volume is how no stone has been left unturned. Karen addresses everything you can imagine with humor and sound advice that any woman can ingest and follow. The book is a quick read and yet is something to be savored as you learn about yourself, the ways of Prince Harmings and begin to apply the strategies for success.
Prince Harming Syndrome offers a recipe for avoiding future Prince Harmings and finding your true Prince Charming. I recommend this to all my over 40 dating coaching clients and any woman who is dating after divorce. Get your copy on Amazon