Dating After Divorce: Youtube Video on Red Flags about Dating Divorced Men

Are you divorced and looking for love or at least thinking about it? Dating after divorce can be  more difficult because now you have ” baggage.”  And the men will too! But don’t let that stop you because many times, divorced men can be great catches and more willing to try again.

But it helps to be smart and that is the point of my latest video – to point our four red flags that you may want to watch for – just in case you run into any of these issues. My best piece of advice as an over 40 dating coach is to not date divorced men until they ARE divorced.

If those papers have not been signed, he is not divorced or single. To be sure a man is really available and relationship ready, steer clear of guys who haven’t had a finalized divorce for at least one year.

Now rules are made to be broken of course.  And naturally there are exceptions to every rule. This is just a good rule of thumb to follow.

Many of my dating coaching clients tell tales of men who seemed so interested, yet disappear or waffle. Often the cause is – not yet divorced. From my perspective, this is just as true about women. Not that you aren’t going to date. That would be silly. But everyone needs time to heal. So got out, flirt and date by all means. Just don’t’ be surprised if it takes some time to really open your heart again, and find lasting love.

And don’t let that discourage your either! As my matchmaker friends will say – this is not a race, its a journey.  You never know what will happen and how you will be blessed so date smart and enjoy the fun!

Here’s the third video of my series on youtube. For anyone who makes a comment on youtube, please let me know by email or contact form on this site  and I’ll send you a FREE ebook entitled “Attract Your Next Great Mate” –  an informative compilation from many dating experts including me and The Dating Goddess.

Happy Viewing!

4 thoughts on “Dating After Divorce: Youtube Video on Red Flags about Dating Divorced Men”

  1. I wish I had been more aware of these pitfalls before I started dating after divorce. I got involved twice with men who were very recently divorced and although they claimed they were ready for a relationship, they both bailed a few mo. into dating as soon as I asked them about emotional commitment.
    So now I’ll be more careful about finding out upfront if they have had enough time to heal.

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  2. Ronnie,

    I can’t underline this one enough. You are SO right. Newly-divorced in 2005, I met a lovely, plausible, kind man who had never actually bothered to get divorced.

    He and his wife were simply long-term separated, and had been so for seven years.

    I fell for him, and set my future plans around him. Six months later I realised the reason he would never settle down with me was that he had decided never to settle with another woman again. Failing to follow up on his divorce was a symptom of this attitude to his life.

    Needless to say, he subsequently finished with me and has moved on to have a series of similar relationships with other women in the last five years. I, meanwhile, have been so crushed and disheartened that I have scarcely dated since.

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  3. Ronnie, you are so right, what you say is absolutely true. This information will help rule out the time wasters that we sometimes invest in because our well-meaning friends tell us “nobody’s perfect”. As women, we compromise and compensate hoping our investment will pay off when we really need to “pass”.

    Lisa

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