Dating Over 40: New YouTube Video – Tips on Flirting

Do you flirt? When asked this question, most of my over 40 dating coaching clients  say things like:

  • Flirt? I don’t know how!
  • I haven’t flirted in years!
  • I can’t remember how to flirt.
  • I never have been a flirt.
  • Why should I flirt?
  • Who would I flirt with? (That’s a whole topic in itself isn’t it?)

Flirting is an art and every woman is capable and can do it.  Sometimes this skill has been on the back burner for quite a while, especially for those dating over 40.  Other times women have made a conscious choice to avoid this behavior out of misconceptions or a desire to focus on business and make it in a man’s world.

Whatever your reason, if you want romance in your life, it’s time to dust off those innate skills that are every woman’s birthright. Use it or lose it baby. And believe me, using your flirting power and feminine charm  is so much more fun!

Misconceptions from many of my over 40 dating coaching clients include:

  • I don’t want to be a tease
  • I’m not really interested in him
  • I want to flirt with just the right guy
  • I don’t want to lead a guy on

But the truth about flirting is – it’s a way of being friendly and interacting with people. There is no promise or teasing or leading anyone on when you have brief eye contact and  smile. But it is a way to acknowledge that someone has noticed you. Appreciate those people who appreciate you! Then you’ll both feel good.

By the way, if you are waiting for the perfect guy to flirt with, chances are you won’t be that great at it. Or your attempts may not seem like a natural part of your feminine charm. Why? Because you won’t have had enough practice! That’s why you might want to think about flirting as a fun way to interact with people, not just the perfect prospect.

I have finally completed a trio of videos that are up on and ready for viewing. The first one is below – Flirting Tips Part 1

I’ll share the other two this week as well. Please feel free to make a comment if you like the video after watching it on youtube – comments help the video become more popular.

For anyone who does make a comment, please let me know by email or contact form on the site and I’ll send you a free ebook entitled “Attract Your Next Great Mate” –  an informative compilation from many dating experts including me and The Dating Goddess.

Enjoy and happy flirting!

12 responses on “Dating Over 40: New YouTube Video – Tips on Flirting

  1. Ronnie Post author

    Deborah, Its interesting isn’t it? To be friendly in one arena but not another. Less risk for business or perhaps more confidence for business connections. But that is a matter of practice. The more you get out there to meet men for dating purposes, the experience you’ll have so the more confident and comfortable you’ll be.

  2. Deborah

    What timing! A refresher on flirting and being open/friendly with men couldn’t come at a better time as the relationship I was in (just limping along of late) was finally done.
    I’ve been divorced fifteen years and only had two dating relationships in all that time, each roughly a year long – and I “knew” neither would culminate in a long-term relationship but there weren’t exactly many options out there either. After divorce I initially focused all my time/energy first on raising kids then growing my business. Why is it I’m fearless to meet new people for business but am chicken sh!t and tongue tied when it comes to meeting new men socially?? I have had my share of internet dating, speed dating and “just-lunch” dating without getting too many second dates so clearly I need to figure out why….

  3. Ronnie Post author

    Hi Dr. Lizzie, I wish you were one of my dating coaching clients because I have so many strategies for you. First let me say the most important part of my response – 5’4″ and 125# – you are probably at your ideal weight! So, and this big, DON’T LET ONE JERK GET UNDER YOUR SKIN. That man is not the representative for all single men. And who said he’s such a great package?

    You didn’t do anything wrong so don’t take that on yourself either. I strongly advise chalking this up to the guy being a total idiot. There are plenty of decent men out there, so stay open and be friendly. Try groups and other singles groups to meet single men in your area and of course there is always online dating. I found love over 40 and I know you can too!

  4. elizabeth fuller

    Ifeel as if I am whining and really, there is no whining allowed at my house.
    however…I had a terrible experience with blind dating which was not really blind since I had distributed my card at a business networking group. The man called and set up a time and place to meet. when I got there, he said, “is that you? I’m not interested; you are too fat and you said you are an active person.” Yes, at the meeting I was asked about my favorite things and I said I liked to run with my dog and I swim nearly everyday. Am I 25? No? Was I expecting to date through business etworking? No I was looking for business and responded to the “getting to know you” part. I am 5’4″ weigh 125#, dress appropriately and smile and act warmly and with an open attitude. I have learned to know I do that well, because my consulting business and my psychotherapy practice depend on it and, it really is my natural self. I have a reputation locally for being able to develop a bond with many individuals who need mental health help, but who have been unable to bond and trust a therapist. There is really no way I could have offended this man by walking up and shaking his hand on the sidewalk at a loal restaurant except by not being who he expected or meeting his (unknown to me) agenda. It really was a mid-section blow to my social self esteem. What do I do to meet people socially? Any advice is wecome…

  5. Ana

    Ronnie I learned some great advice from my parents when I was a teen:

    Don’t go places to meet people, meet people at the places you’re at.

    Be friendly to everyone – that includes other women, children, men, and even animals. You never know who’s at the other end of that leash.

    The prettiest thing you can wear is a smile. (My dad’s advice)

    Being shy and self-conscious is selfish and self-centered. The way to get rid of feeling this way is to think that everyone is shy and self-conscious to a degree and focus on making them feel comfortable. It works like a charm because you can’t think of yourself if you’re focusing on someone else.

  6. Michelle

    Thankyou for your genuine and helpful advice. Very practical and clearly expressed.
    Looking forward to more.

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  8. Andrea Szechenyi


    You have a natural ability to explain things in a straightforward, simple way. Great video!

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