One of my clients was complaining about online profiles, emails and why she just isn’t interested in a man who can’t spell or confuses words. She can almost forgive the typos, but using too instead of to sends her over the edge.
Sandra insists that this is a measure of intelligence and she needs to be with an intelligent man. A man of substance. Oh really? What substance are you measuring by Sandra?
Shocking as this may seem, poor spelling, typos and choosing the wrong word in a quick email are not signs of low intelligence. It’s actually a sign of bad editing skills – something I know a lot about being the queen of typos myself.
If editing was a true sign of intelligence, I’d be considered excruciatingly stupid- and perhaps I am by some. But I am not objecting to this requirement of yours because I’m sensitive…
Even the Wall Street Journal and the New York Times have editing errors as well as countless books. You can find them every day.
Think about it this way – is “good editing skills” on your list of “must have” qualities describing the ideal man for you?
I doubt it.
Heck, our past president went to Yale and Harvard and couldn’t speak well or spell, but he made it to the top of our country anyway. So poor spelling and even speaking isn’t a deterrent for amazing accomplishments is it?
Why not judge your potential partners based on their values and how well they match your own? Things like having a good heart and a generous spirit. If the man treats you well, has a good sense of humor that you enjoy and understand. Can he make you laugh, smile and hold a good conversation? Is his energy level similar to yours and do you share any activities in common? Is he social enough or family oriented?
These qualities are the core of what makes for a good partner. Not spelling, word choice or editing.
If I have to repeat my plea daily I will. Ladies, please open your minds to what men truly have to offer you. It’s not editing that matters most – its love and partnership. Honesty and humor. it’s been said before but I will say it again – don’t sweat the small stuff.
Cut these guys online some slack. For example, you could meet an intelligent man with advanced mathematical skills and a heart of gold, who can’t spell to save his life. And you could be really happy together.