Dating After Divorce: Wiggle Room

When you first start dating someone, you might not want to spill the beans about your whole life story for a number of reasons.

1. First off, you don’t want to scare anyone away!
2. You want to keep things positive and upbeat, not tell war stories
3. You want to make a good impression – so feel free to share happy stories
4. You want to make sure the conversation is a two way street, not just about you
5. Listening is very attractive

With time, you will begin to explore all the things that make you the individual you are todya and find out about your date’s life as well. But I want to pose a thought provoking question about telling your stories. Do you leave yourself any wiggle Room?

Wiggle Room is when you can tell a story, or the gist of it, but maybe you don’t add in all the gory details. Why? Because you want to feel safe and know you are sharing private information with someone you can trust. And even more true for meeting people from the online dating community.

This is why time is so important – so you start to have a track record of watching how the other person reacts to your personal data.  Wiggle Room gives you the chance to share very intimate details a little at a time. You can always go back to fill in the gaps or embellish as you discover whether or not the person is trustworthy.

I highly recommend leveraging Wiggle Room. It can preserve your privacy and keep you from wearing your heart on your sleeve. Sometimes all the details aren’t really necessary for a good story any way. But with Wiggle Room, you give yourself the option. Options are powerful and come in handy.

If you have a track record of sharing too much too quickly, please consider Wiggle Room and make it a part of your dating protocol.

 

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