When was the last time you had a crush? Can you remember back that far? Or maybe you’re having one right now? A crush is a rush of intense attraction. One that makes your heart do that school girl pitter patter. You’re excited, maybe giggly, sometimes flirty. You’ve been caught actually batting your eye lashes.(Don’t worry, it’s a natural reflex.
- First off, are you seeing someone else or are you available?
- Second, is the guy single and available?
- Third, he’s he the right kind of guy for you or a potential bad boy?
If you’re both single and he meets your initial criteria for a potential date, that’s great news! Flirt to your heart’s content. Make the most of mutual attraction and watch and wait to see how things evolve. It’s best not to pursue him or assert too much influence to make it happen. But you can be friendly, flirty and follow his lead.
This kind of crush or attraction is energizing, fun, adventurous and terribly exciting.
However, if you are available and he is NOT or he is a "bad boy" type, that’s a whole different story.
If you start feeling intense chemistry wit the wrong man, let that be a signal to you. Wake up to smell the coffee and recognize the emotional danger you are exposing yourself too. I hear too many women tell me "they just couldn’t help it." Or my favorite, "It just happened." Nothing just happens. You agreed at some level or point.
Now who am I to tell you not to risk an affair or travel down a road that looks like fun? No one. No one at all. I’m not here to judge you. Nope. My job is to help you keep from getting hurt and to hold your best interest in mind.
I can tell you that if you want to guard your heart and not get tied up with the wrong kind of guy for you, look at the signs and pay attention to the red flags. Occasionally, the red flags don’t crop up. Instead they come as a total surprise. Yet, more often than not, red flags are popping up like fireworks on the fourth of July. But hey – you like fireworks. so you choose to ignore them.
Crushing on a man can help you feel alive again. Re-energize your belief in love. Rekindle your allure and s-e-x drive. All of these things are fabulous. But that doesn’t mean it’s wise to take the next step. And a good crush is sometimes better left as it is – an interactive fantasy, a safe harbor for flirting and feeling like the attractive woman you really are. Go ahead and enjoy it. But don’t expect that it means anything and you will keep your head on your shoulders and your emotional heart intact..