Dating Over 40: Is Dating Advice from Men Better?

In an article entitled Men Do it Better from Globe Life, David Coleman and David Wygant, both dating coaches, insist that men give much better dating advice then women do for women. They claim that the advice women give is too complicated – like judging a man by his shoes or his watch. Or manipulative marketing techniques to get a guy to ask you out.

Nonsense. I always promote avoiding manipulation – who has that much energy? Plus, women want a man to pursue her of his own volition – it’s the only way a man will get invested in winning you over. Anything else is a waste of time.

Turns out I actually agree with what these two male dating coaches have to say – in terms of dating advice for women, but not in terms of how women give bad dating advice! Oh men and their egos! Nobody does it better- sounds like a James Bond movie right?

For example, check out this quote from Dave Wygant, ""Smiling at us does not mean we’ll think we’re going to get it on in the bathroom," he said. "Really, all the man’s thinking is, ‘How was I lucky enough this morning that a woman is making it easy for me for the very first time?’ "In fact, I just made this case and point last night at a workshop called he Secret to Finding Love Today in Westport, CT.

Doesn’t seem like they are overly original, even if the suggestions and point of view may be on target.

Perhaps there are those women coaches who indulge in manipulation tactics – but I’ve never been that good at anything but a straight forward, practical approach  to life and to dating.

On the other hand, good advice, whether it’s from a man or a woman is very valuable. Get it wherever you can, but do seek it out. The straight poop on dating will save you a world of time and heartache.

 

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