Dating Over 40: Does Your Christmas Stocking have Room for Two?

Do you have room in your life for someone else?  You may say you want to find love, but that’s not always the full story.There are some simple things to look at which can reveal your emotional state as open and ready or not quite there yet. Discover if any of these signs give you clues to your situation.

1) Do you have a night table on both sides of your bed?  
Sounds like a silly question and rather simplistic, but this is a Feng Shui indicator of balance. You need two night stands for a balanced relationship and to demonstrate that you subconsciously think about two versus one. The symbolism of how you decorate your home cannot go unnoticed.

Same thing goes for art work. If you have a number of pieces that feature a single woman, that’s how you view yourself. If you want to change the energy, make sure you move these pieces out of your bedroom. And you may want to replace some with art that has couple energy – anything that depicts two people, two boats, two birds, etc. will do.

2) Is your calendar so jammed that you say things like, "I don’t have time to date?" 
Well that’s a tell tale tip off of how you look at your life. If you don’t have time to date, you might not have time for another person, nor really want anyone else to take up your time. And that’s OK – it’s certainly your choice, but something to become aware of.

3) Do you worry a love interest would rob you of your freedom? 
For many women who have won their freedom after divorce, or who are fiercely independent, this can be a deep concern. And a sign that you value your freedom more than a relationship. That’s your choice too.

Yet, if you do desire a loving partnership, you may have to do some work to find a new perspective – that you can in fact, be in love and maintain a very healthy amount of freedom. It’s totally possible.

Here’s one symbolic move for love you can make this Christmas
Hang up an extra Christmas stocking. This is your stocking of expectation that love will come into your life within the next year (less or more – whatever your desire.) Then, put a few things in it to take the intention one step further. Maybe some chocolate, some socks with hearts on them, a juicy romance novel where the hero finds love, a romantic chic flick with a happy ending, lip balm to keep your lips kissable. You get the idea.

Don’t over fill it with your new found exuberance. Leave room for something fun and unexpected.

Now of course the likelihood that the man of your dreams will follow Santa down the chimney are quite slim. The purpose of this exercise is to start building the energy and your belief system for love. Send a message to the Universe (and Santa) "There is room for love at my hearth and in my heart." Use this like an affirmation or mantra. Making room and creating this shift will take some effort on your part, but if love is your heart’s desire – it’s worth it.

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony, MSN.com, MORE.com, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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