10 Quick Ways To Feel More Feminine When You’re Head’s In The Wrong Space

Feel more feminine with these quick ways to shift your energy whether you are going on a date or out to mingle and meet men.

Want to Feel More Feminine?

feel more feminineMany women enjoy a successful career in a competitive field or one dominated by men. In business, when you want to be effective and get things done, it often requires a good deal of masculine energy. This is completely natural and most men and women have energy from both genders available to them.

However, if you are a woman looking for lasting love with the right man, chances are you want a decisive, successful masculine guy, right? So, what does he want?

For the most part, the typical masculine man with a strong career wants a feminine woman.

Why is that? Well, when you feel more feminine by softening your energy, you actually perk up his masculinity. And that feels really good to him. You are his biological counterpart.

He Doesn’t Want One of the Guys

If you stay in your masculine energy when you go on date or out to meet men, you might find yourself getting friend zoned a lot. You might not get many second dates or the men you talk to don’t ask for your number.

Guys will enjoy your company, but romantic sparks aren’t likely to fly if you don’t feel more feminine.

No Need To Be Someone You’re Not

First please understand I’m not suggesting that you change who you are. ALL woman have access to feminine charm because it’s coded into your DNA. yes, you are born with it! There’s no need to turn yourself into some “femme fatale” or anything you’re not.

However, you can allow your own version of femininity to surface that is an innate part of who you are. And this will likely look different for every woman since we are all individuals!

Femininity Takes Awareness

If you want to amp up your feminine side, it can often be done by simply shifting your awareness. The more you build up a consciousness of your female energy, the easier it will emerge and come forward.

Trouble is, what if your head is in the wrong space? If you spend 40+ hard-driving hours a week using your masculine energy to achieve your goals, how can you shift gears quickly to feel more feminine and attract a man?

10 Quick Ways to Feel More Feminine


feel more feminine1.Fix Your Makeup

If you work in a city this one is easy. Stop at any makeup counter and spruce up! When you reapply your make up (or at least clean up any smears), you are sure to feel your feminine energy rise. Primping is a quick route to your Y chromosome.

If you don’t wear much makeup, that’s OK. I do recommend the basic three which is a little cheek color, lip color and mascara. You don’t have to be all dolled up – but a little enhancement (especially over 40) warms up your face for a healthy glow.

2. Wear a Scent

Perfume, cologne or even essential oils appeal to the senses which connects you to your sensuality. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive or intense – in fact light is better. You might have a go-to signature scent or you try a sample at the makeup counter.  Studies show men love vanilla.

Wearing a scent is sure to help you feel more feminine

3. Mimic Another

If you have trouble getting into the feminine mindset, BORROW it! Think of an actress you admire. Maybe Jennifer Aniston, Eva Longoria, or Jennifer Lawrence. You decide!

Spend 30 seconds with your eyes closed imagining what it would be like if you were her. Your own brand will come through so not to worry about being someone else. This is a quick energy shift trick that gives you a boost in the right direction.

4. Pink Light of Love

Okay, here’s one of my favorite “Trade Secrets”. If you want to feel more feminine, get into a comfortable position in a safe place.

Close your eyes and imagine a fluffy pink cloud of light and love coming down from the heavens. Let it swirl around and surround you.  Imagine it sinking in through the top of your head and comfortably filling you with love!

You can do this for a minute, but even 30-seconds before you walk into a place can totally shift your energy into the feminine realm. It’s so easy and works like a charm.

5. Let Your Hair Down

feel more feminineIf you have long hair you often put in a pony or wear back or up, let it down! Your long locks are a sign of your feminine prowess for sure. Curly or straight – it doesn’t matter. Men love long hair so let it down girlfriend.

One flirty tips is to play with your hair. Hold a lock in your fingers and twirl it. Run a hand through your hair like a comb. Or toss your head – it’s all good and lets men know you are approachable.

6. Show Off Your Legs

When you wear a skirt or dress, you are likely to feel more feminine automatically. I had a client who worked in IT. She had gotten into the habit of wearing jeans all the time carrying computers around etc.

Then she decided to become more feminine and started wearing her skirts again. She was so surprised at what a difference this made with men AND women.

Men often held the door open for her, where in the past she’d be completely independent and put boxes down to open the door herself. But she realized how nice it was to get a bit of assistance.

And she noticed that women were also friendlier and helpful too which was sort of a shocker. So, if you’re going out to meet men or a date, put on a dress or skirt and enjoy being a woman.

7. Be Kind to Yourself

Are you critical of yourself? If you start to notice how often you give yourself a hard time – it’s time to learn to be KIND to yourself.

Women often tell me how well they want a man to treat them but they do not treat themselves this way. They want compliments or a man who is thoughtful. All love starts with self-love so start by being kind to  yourself!

When you realize you’re saying mean things to yourself – STOP. Then say something kind or positive. Here are a few examples:

  • “That was so stupid!” Catch yourself and say, “That’s OK, I’ll do better next time. I’m good”
  • My butt looks too big in these jeans.” Focus on something you do like. “My eyes are beautiful” or “Love comes in all shapes and sizes”
  • “I’ll never find a decent guy.” Say, “The right man for me is out there and love is my destiny!”

Learn to be kind and speak to yourself in a positive encouraging way the way you would with just about anyone else. Positive self-talk and nurturing go a long way to feel more feminine.

8. Be Playful


When you are light-hearted and playful, you are definitely using your femininity. Give yourself a chance to let your creative side out or your silliness show. Your playful side will help you feel more feminine and make you a lot more attractive too. It’s a great way to relax some of the intensity of the day too!

9. Take 10 Deep Breaths

You’d be surprised how many people do not breathe deeply, but there are so many benefits! First of all more oxygen is good for your brain and your skin. Plus deep breathing is a great way to de-stress from your day.

To do this exercise, first set an intention to allow yourself to feel more feminine. The take a slow deep breath that fills not only your lungs but also your abdomen. As you breathe in count to 7, then hold for 7, then exhale for 7, then rest for 7. Repeat this 10 times and you’ll feel a big difference!

With each breather imagine you feel more feminine and you WILL. It’s really that simple because just setting this intention can help you make the shift. Slowing down and feeling more relaxed softens your energy.

10. Notice Your Beauty

No matter who you are or what you look like, you have features to be proud of. Make it a practice to look in the mirror daily and give yourself a compliment. Pick one feature a week to focus on and praise yourself for it. Then move on to another next week.

This kind of practice builds your confidence about being a beautiful woman. While you might have loads of confidence for your career, you want to build that up to know you are an amazing woman too.

That’s it – 10 quick and easy ways to feel more feminine. Whether you apply one of these tips or use a bunch of them, know that time spent upping the ante on your feminine charm is definitely in your best interest.

It’s definitely time to enjoy being a woman and feeling more feminine!

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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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