Ready to Start Dating at 50+ But Have Been Out of Circulation for a While?
When you haven’t been in the dating pool for some time, maybe years even, the idea of getting back out there can feel overwhelming. You might be divorced, widowed, or single and have simply given up. So many questions plaque your mind when you think about this unknown and scary world after so many years.
Maybe you can relate to these concerns:
- Where do you go to meet men?
- What do you write in an online dating profile?
- Which online dating site should you try?
- How safe will you be?
- What if the men aren’t honest?
- What if you don’t like the men?
- What if the men don’t like you?
I understand how hard this can be. With so much you don’t know, how do you even get started?
That’s why I want to share the #1 tip for women who are dating at 50 or over. I guarantee that this is not something you have thought of. But I also promise it will make all the difference in the world for when you start dating.
The #1 Tip: Take the pressure off yourself and the dating process!
Does that sound too simple? Maybe you think it doesn’t directly address any of those questions listed above. Let me share why something as simple as taking the pressure off can not only change your experience, but also your success!
1. Get comfortable with dating.
When you take the pressure off, you can focus on getting comfortable with the process. You can start to think of dating as just meeting new people. You probably know how to meet new people right? You might meet people at work, at a friend’s party, on the golf course, at your children’s school, or at church. You actually meet new people all the time even if you don’t look at it this way.
When you think about meeting men like they are just new people, you can relax and be yourself. This is a winning strategy because when you are relaxed, you appear more confident and that naturally makes you more attractive. And when you are comfortable, the men will feel that way too.
2. Handle dating rejection and disappointment more easily.
If you meet a man and he doesn’t call you again for another date, you can let it roll off. After all, you are just meeting new people. So he wasn’t the right one? So what! It’s just one guy and you are meeting many men. When you take the pressure off, one date with one man becomes nearly meaningless. Talk about taking the pressure off – that is huge!
I get so many calls from dating coaching clients who meet a guy from online dating who doesn’t turn out to be who they thought he was:
- He talked about his ex constantly
- He never asked you one question
- He just wanted to have sex
- He has problems
- He’s out of work
- He is much older than his photo
- He drank too much
- He didn’t have good manners
- He was so boring
- He had no class
- He wasn’t educated
- He had no hair or was shorter than he said
My response is usually this, said with true compassion:
“He is just one man. Don’t let him stop you in your tracks. You just got started. Take the pressure off yourself and the dating process and go meet some new men.”
3. First dates aren’t supposed to be perfect.
When you get hung up on feeling hurt because you were rejected or freaked by how the man you met wasn’t who you thought he’d be, that’s an indication you need to take the pressure off. Your first dates will not be perfect. In fact, nothing and no one is perfect. Stop thinking your first dates should be magical to take the pressure off.
Your job as a woman dating at 50 or any age really is to:
- Be your best self
- Present your good side
- Be positive
- Be friendly
- Be easy to talk to
- Have fun
- Say, “Thank you” at the end
That’s it. So when you look at it this way and take the pressure off, can you see how much more is possible? And how this can make dating so much easier?
Relax, take the pressure off, learn how to enjoy meeting new people. Your chances of finding love actually skyrocket when you take this simple step.
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